Funeral do's and don'ts
Finally, to minimise your chances of inadvertently causing offense at a funeral or memorial service, it's best to keep these do's and don'ts in mind.
Do turn your mobile phone off, rather than on silent, before walking into the funeral. Don't check it during the service. It could be seen to be very disrespectful.
Do be punctual. Ensure that you do not arrive late or leave early.
Do take any children under your care outside if they are not content, to keep disruption of the service to a minimum.
If you are required to drive in the funeral procession, do turn your car headlights on, follow the speed of the lead cars and do not overtake any of the cars in the procession.
If you are close to the family, do keep in touch with them in the weeks and months after the funeral, particularly on key dates. These dates may include the birthday of the deceased, Mother’s or Father’s Day and the anniversary of the death.
Do research before you attend, if you are not familiar with the customs and traditions of the family's culture or religion. Remember that different communities may have different expectations around funeral etiquette.
Do share memories
that you have of the deceased. If they did or said something that meant a lot to you, tell the immediate family, either verbally or in a card or letter. If you have photos of the deceased, copy them and share them with the family as well.
Unless you are an immediate family member, do not post anything on social media, unless it is a response to something an immediate family member has posted.
Do use your discretion when it comes to taking photos at a funeral.
The loss of an acquaintance, colleague, friend or family member can bring a range of different emotions to the surface, sometimes confusing and often challenging. Please remember that it's ok to ask for support - you can reach out to any of the organisations listed on our resources page, or alternatively contact the Centre for Care & Wellbeing at Springvale Botanical Cemetery.