To those at SMCT working behind the scenes at our events, Tai is a familiar face, with her beautiful flower crown and open connection to the stories taking place around her. She shares with us that the community events were a big part of helping her process her grief and pay tribute to her beloved Tom.
‘When he passed away, I was lost,’ Tai says. ‘I was blinded. I mean, losing a soulmate, it’s like your whole world is gone too.’
‘But these events helped. I came for the Father’s Day event and then I came to the Christmas tribute for our loved ones the same year. It was hard and in the following year it became more comfortable.’
Tai shares that she finds comfort and support in listening to others and their stories.
‘That’s why I keep coming, to make sure I can let go and move forward, I’m just figuring things out one day at a time.’
The knowledge that Bunurong Memorial Park is where her husband is located has also made these gardens a second home for her.
Tai says, ‘I spend hours here talking to him, it’s like he’s here. We always did things as a family —wherever we go, we go together. Home…it’s not home anymore, it’s not a happy home, this
is where home is.’
With a new idea of 'home' comes a new chapter, and day by day, Tai is regaining her independence. She got her driver's license in her 50s and a new job. Grief is not easy, but Tai is taking steps forward the best way she can.